Over the last few days, I’ve thrown a lot of acronyms at you, most with little explanation. As I’ve mentioned before, this is why a person with a lot of experience in a subject isn’t always the best teacher: they forget what it’s like to not know the basics. On many of the feminist sites I frequent, the terms MRA, PUA and MGTOW are thrown around casually, because everyone knows.
This post that I reblogged from Dave Futrelle over at We Hunted The Mammoth explains MRA’s pretty well, complete with links to some representative statements by important leaders of the movement.
(If you’re wondering just what the heck mammoths have to do with anything, it’s a reference to a long-forgotten commenter who claimed that women – women living today, mind you – owed men – men living today, mind you – their very lives, because “we hunted the mammoth to feed you”. The ignorance is almost as appalling as the misogyny. Here’s a hint: hunter-gatherer tribes that exist today do not depend on big, occasional meat catches for their nutrition. Any that did in prehistory don’t have any descendants living today.)
MGTOW’s, as I explained in this post are actually quite simple: they think women are horrible, and that men should “go their own way” and forsake the company of women forever. In their case, that probably would indeed be best for everyone. Unfortunately, they never seem to get around to actually leaving and take up a hobby or something, as you’d imagine someone would do if they actually went their own way. Instead, they spend all their time online, kvetching about how awful women are and how, someday soon, all men will go their own way, and won’t women be sorry then!
In the same post, I mention that “PUA’s” are “Pick Up Artists”, and that that is much nastier than it sounds. That’s probably where I need to explain a bit.
When I use the term “Pick Up Artists”, you probably imagine some suave, handsome fellow charming his way into a new pair of knickers every Friday and Saturday night. If the “Pick Up Artist” community was about how to become that guy – more attractive, interesting, confident, etc. – it wouldn’t be a problem.
Instead, you have a bunch of guys who think they’ve found the cheat codes that are guaranteed to get a man as much sex as he wants, a strategy they refer to as “Game”.
(Because of course, all women are identical. No, really. One of their few good pieces of advice – give up and move on if someone just isn’t into you – is delivered in a wrapping of hideous misogyny: “Just get another woman, they’re all the same.”)
“Game” is a fundamentally adversarial process that treats women as obstacles that must be overcome so a man can get the sex that is his real goal. Sex is the only reason to interact with women at all, and while a certain amount of putting up with their chatter is to be expected, spending too long on it is a waste of time, and worse, risks entry into the dreaded Friendzone. Abandon all hope of sex, ye who enter there.
(Where women who find a fella attractive and want to fuck him, or men who find common interests with women and want to be friends fit into this philosophy, I’m not sure.)
Anyway, Game involves a lot of psychological manipulation techniques designed to push women’s limits and single out the ones who can be pushed. The most notorious of these is the infamous “negging”:
The other important part of “Game” is not taking “no” for an answer. Game Gurus warn you not to fall for women’s “Shit Tests” – i.e., things women do to weed out and dissuade men they feel are unworthy.
Which is…not something I’d ever even heard of before I heard of PUA’s. I suppose it’s possible that every woman I’ve ever known, including the ones who have a vested interest in helping me reproduce, have kept it secret, but that’s a heck of a conspiracy. Alternatively, it’s the kind of theory a man or group of men might come up with if they spent all of their time speculating about women’s behavior instead of asking.
The real problem is, a lot of common “shit tests” would be interpreted by most non-PUA’s as simple “signs of disinterest or discomfort”.
As another part of not taking no for an answer, Game tells you about how to overcome “Last Minute Resistance”. That is to say, if a woman changes her mind about having sex with you at the last minute, here are some tips for overcoming it. You should not leave the apartment without dipping your wick, or at least getting as far, sexually, as you can possibly push it.
I’m just going to leave that out there.
For more information on PUA’s, check out these posts at We Hunted The Mammoth.